Fair or Foul: This Bride’s Guest List Sparked HR Drama in Her Office

We’ve all worked with people we’d be happy to say goodbye to at the end of every day and not think about them again. It could be someone who snitches on you when you take an extra-long coffee break, or someone who you nod a ‘hello’ to every morning, and that’s the extent of your interaction for the whole day. It’s obvious that these people wouldn’t make the cut when it comes to the guest list of one of the most special days of your life, right? Well, maybe it’s not that obvious to all, at least according to this Reddit post!

In a post on the subreddit r/EntitledPeople, a soon-to-be-bride shared how her wedding guest list got her in trouble with HR at work. A colleague got upset when she discovered that she wasn’t invited to the wedding and filed a complaint against her for being’exclusive’.

“We’ve had small talk here and there, nothing deep. No lunches together. No real outside-of-work connection,” the original poster (OP) wrote. “She found out I was getting married and asked when the wedding was. Then she straight up asked if she was invited. I kinda laughed and said, ‘Oh no, it’s really small. Just close friends and family.’ I didn’t think anything of it,” the fiancée recalled. “She got quiet and a little cold after that, but I figured okay, maybe awkward moment, whatever.”

As it turns out, the co-worker went ahead and filed an official complaint against OP, claiming that she was “creating a hostile environment by leaving people out”.

“Because I didn’t invite her. To my wedding. That I’m paying for. That isn’t even work-related,” she wrote.

“So I had to sit in this HR meeting and explain that I’m not required to invite coworkers I barely know to my literal wedding. That it’s a personal event,” she continued. “That it has nothing to do with work or who’s in the office.”

The HR, understandably, were as confused by the complaint as OP was.  “They basically said, ‘Yep, okay, thanks,’ and closed the case,” she wrote.

While the HR might have dismissed the matter, the disgruntled co-worker is not over the snub. “But now she acts super passive-aggressive toward me,” shared OP, “Like side-eyes, little digs when I walk by. Still bringing it up in these weird sarcastic comments like, ‘Some people are so inclusive these days.’ ”

She added, “I can’t believe she actually thought HR could… what, make me invite her? Some people really do think they’re the main character.”

Understandably, the comments on the thread were as stumped as she was. Many expressed how ridiculous the whole situation was. Some also urged OP to document the hostile behaviour displayed by her co-worker and file a counter-complaint against her. 

“I would report her to HR for creating an uncomfortable environment now,” wrote one user, while other agreed, adding, “While she was delusional in filing her nonsensical complaint, her comments and attitude toward you are legitimate grounds for you to file a complaint against her--and you definitely need to do so before things get worse.”

What do you think?